getting personal... my advice on body confidence, self love, & beauty standards

27 aug. 2020
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age: 19 (born in 2000)
height: I'm 5'8''
ethnicity: Italian, Filipino, Portuguese, Hawaiian + a lot more haha I'm very mixed!
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  • so happy to share another video about this topic 🤍 it’s very important and close to my heart & I invite you to leave a comment whether you have advice you want to share, an experience, or some thoughts :) love you MUCHO! follow my IG for more @avajules_ 🌟

    Ava JulesAva Jules6 maanden geleden
    • I have started a channel bc of you

      Hannah HoodHannah Hood6 maanden geleden
    • Girl you my impo

      Hannah HoodHannah Hood6 maanden geleden
    • Thank you for this video. I love watching your videos and listening to you talk. I'm the eldest in my house and you're like the older sister I never had so thank you for that❤

      Natalie KnollNatalie Knoll6 maanden geleden
    • Thankyou so much Ava for this advice❤️❤️❤️❤️

      Tirsha Cindy SahetapyTirsha Cindy Sahetapy6 maanden geleden
    • If anyone is finding their mental health is suffering from the effects of social media, I encourage you to please visit my IG (Denim_by_Donna) I am a confidence coach and have written a book ALL ABOUT social media and society’s beauty standards. Its over 150 pages that will teach you how to survive the pressure girls are facing in today’s society. Other topics included are: * Comparison * Body image * Validation * FOMO * Filters * Online relationships * Beauty and Fitness Magazines * Negative self-talk and so much more. I have also included a 30 day mental health detox as well as a complete self-care guide and corresponding workbook! I encourage you guys to check it out. I know this is an ongoing issue for girls (myself included) and I felt compelled to write this for a while now. Thanks to the pandemic I finally had the time to. I sincerely thank all who decide to visit my IG page. Please say hi and let me know you came from over from NLworld! Be well and stay safe. 😘 XO

      Denim DenimDenim Denim6 maanden geleden
  • Love your videos! Makes me feel better and more confident ❤️ Really appreciate you being real about these topics✨❤️ #everyonearebeautiful

    Louvise MadsenLouvise Madsen2 dagen geleden
  • Thank you!❤

    Mo FAVMo FAV6 dagen geleden
  • You know what I do? I don’t look in the mirror or measure my weight.

    Melinda WangMelinda Wang7 dagen geleden
  • It’s so annoying because i LOVE my body but i have extremely strict parents who don’t allow me to wear short shorts, ANYTHING cropped, and tight fitting clothes. It’s really sad because they keep sexualising me and making me feel bad about myself so i have to constantly wear oversized clothes that make me feel ugly. Any advice on what to do?

    Siana Not SiennaSiana Not Sienna9 dagen geleden
  • I’ve been steadily working out for about a month now, particularly oriented around my stomach. I’m starting to show results and became very happy about it! I watch this video and I realized that a lot of the questions other girls were asking, retain to me as well. I’m constantly thinking about what I’m going to be putting in my body, what I’m eating and “if I can eat it.” It’s open my eyes up so much, obsessing over food isn’t okay and shouldn’t be normal. Taking a rest day is okay! Eating what I want, and not thinking about weight gain, is okay! It’s so crazy to me that society was able to convince us otherwise, how society is always telling us that it’s here for us, when this world is what’s really tearing and degrading us as young girls or women. Having a routine dedicated to having a healthy body, while eating and doing what you find joyful, that’s what we should be focused on and helping others to view as “normal.” Something else that i’ve always struggled with, along with plenty of other young girls, was what I look like wearing a bathing suit. I particularly came from a very modest and conservative household. Finding a bathing suit that fit my liking along with the strict rules both parents had for me, was extremely difficult. So much so that even now I dread looking for a bathing suit. Just the other day I was trying on all my bathing suits and thought I looked horrible with all of them on, critiquing each part of my body differently. I’m constantly reminding myself that everybody’s body is individually unique in its own way. No, there should not be any beauty standard because of how drastic each body is, and that should be defined as okay!

    Bella RoseBella Rose12 dagen geleden
  • So I have a lot of body fat but it really looks like I’m fit but I’m not and also I have a burn over my hole neck and it’s kinda dark and me being tall and I’m in middle school taller then all the boy which makes me so disappointed cause I look strange😓😰

    •Osin Brooklynn••Osin Brooklynn•12 dagen geleden
  • Thank you for speaking on this. It is so hard to accept my body but you are one of the only influencers I can see their content and still feel seen and accepted

    Emily MannEmily Mann14 dagen geleden
  • im thinking much about what peopole think of me when i do thinks. and i try to tell my self that they proprely dont care so i shal do whatt the fuck i want :) your video was really inspering

    Helle SofieHelle Sofie18 dagen geleden
  • Girl u need to start a podcast I swear u would be so good at it

    Roxy DudaRoxy Duda21 dag geleden
  • coming a bit late, but I loved this video and I never thought that such a simple video would help me so much! thank you for sharing all this positive messages :)

    Alejandra Faura LópezAlejandra Faura López23 dagen geleden
  • i needed this :)

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  • this is amazing ava love u

    jaden formanjaden formanMaand geleden
  • I’m jealous of the weather. It’s so cold where I am😭😭

    Maureen MukasaMaureen MukasaMaand geleden
  • Targettyy

    Skatergrl123Skatergrl123Maand geleden
  • omg yes get that target sponsorship girl

    Leena AdamsLeena AdamsMaand geleden
  • your so pretty omg

    Leena AdamsLeena AdamsMaand geleden
  • Hey!! I have started my own NLworld channel and it would mean the world to me if any of you guys reading this could check it out! xx

    Teresa FelipoTeresa FelipoMaand geleden
  • comeback for someone who says they dont like your outfit: "You now what? I dont care about your opinion" And walk away like a QUEEN :) Your beautiful!!!!!

    Katja AndersenKatja AndersenMaand geleden
  • love you, ava! you radiate such a positive energy which is really comforting during these shitty times

    RigaToniRigaToniMaand geleden

    Sapphire DropsSapphire DropsMaand geleden
  • Hip dips are legit just ur pelvis

    Sapphire DropsSapphire DropsMaand geleden
  • Love this video and love these comments!!! 💜 Thank you

    Bene ElgulBene ElgulMaand geleden
  • inspirational QUEEN

    c a t i e r o s ec a t i e r o s eMaand geleden
  • 10:25 I completely agree. People see a skinny woman who is white and blonde with blue eyes and say "wow she is the beauty standard", she isn't. There isn't a beauty standard, she is just a beauty. It's just the idea of beauty standard that I feel like everyone keeps repeating and repeating. Just forget about it!

    Anonymously_FranAnonymously_FranMaand geleden
  • I look up to girls like you ♥️

    Mary Dianne MendozaMary Dianne MendozaMaand geleden
  • Such an inspiration ♥️

    Mary Dianne MendozaMary Dianne MendozaMaand geleden
  • You are such an inspiration to me💗 don’t ever stop being YOU💖 love ya and your videos girl 💖

    Laney JoLaney JoMaand geleden
  • Great advice!💖

    MICHELLE 77vaMICHELLE 77vaMaand geleden
  • i didn’t know anything about “beauty standards” or that people felt insecure about not being small when i was younger. i was much skinnier than most other girls in my classes, and they made fun of me and called me a stick or flat or whatever. and i always wished i could gain more weight but it was hard because of my fast metabolism :/ so! in conclusion weight literally doesn’t matter in the slightest, reaching a certain number isn’t going to make anyone happier! really you should just be confident in how you look because you’re gorgeous!!

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  • Can I just say I love this video! it made me feel so much better about myself. I love how positive Ava is whenever i watch her vids I always feel happier and uplifted!

    Alaina YoderAlaina YoderMaand geleden
  • ava said: beauty is not a zero sum game 🥰

    Claire MacAulayClaire MacAulayMaand geleden
  • Sizes are only invented to help you find the perfect clothes in the store. Not for anything else

    Szófia FülöpSzófia FülöpMaand geleden
  • I recently unfollowed and muted all of the women on social media that I envy and compare myself too and now I only follow women that I love and see as amazing people. My view of my feed has completely changed and I don't have to worry about going on Instagram and seeing someone that is prettier than me, cause I never see the photo in the first place.

    claire vanorsowclaire vanorsowMaand geleden
  • You should definitely start a podcast 😍

    MaiseyKleinmaierMaiseyKleinmaierMaand geleden
  • I love what your doing here Ava I’m starting to make videos and came to see how to do it like different styles but everything you said here was beautiful put positive and so sweet of a message you are a blessing Ava thank you for sharing who you are with the rest of the world I appreciate you!

    LivingMyDream242LivingMyDream242Maand geleden
  • I loved this video! I have always been bigger than my friends, and this year I decided to start working out and I felt great but was very inconsistent and I didn’t feel the same way. I’ve been overweight for a coupke of years now but never to where I am right now, so I am going to see a nutritionist. I’ve always been an active person since I was 6 years old but I kept gaining and gainig weight and this year I started to eat better, I was training 2 times a week with my friends and 1 of those days it was always at the beach and some days I would workout at home. I am so frustrated because I did all of those things and didn’t see results for the entire year, but then I realized I have not done anything wrong. So my problem is my metabolism that’s why I am going to see a nutritionist because I don’t want to keep gaining weight because then I am going to have a lot of health issues and I don’t want that for me. I’m glad that I’ve never been one to compare myself that much to other people and that I accept my body dor what it is. My goal is not to be skinny or lean because honestly I don’t mind having a belly, but I do want to be healthier.

    Delisbeth HernandezDelisbeth Hernandez2 maanden geleden
    • I do accept myself as I am now, but I know I can improve more as a person mentally and physically. This year is the happiest I’ve ever been and is because I started to focus on myself more. You are beautiful just the way you are, you are enough, you are amazing and I love you✨💕

      Delisbeth HernandezDelisbeth Hernandez2 maanden geleden
  • this is beyond helpful. thank you so much for everything, ava. ily :')

    mlak zidimlak zidi2 maanden geleden
  • I had a great new school year ! 4 hole years i had Toxic "friends" and they put me down the hole time! Now after 4 years i finally found out that non of my Friends care about how i look. Of course i still have some bad days,but its very normal!😁 PS:i watch this always at the and of the year and reflect!

    Delia TeDelia Te2 maanden geleden
  • Thank you so much for this vid lol rlly hit me.

    megan headrickmegan headrick2 maanden geleden
  • What paint color is your room!!?

    Abby OddAbby Odd2 maanden geleden
  • i keep having this mindset where i can’t wear a certain outfit because i’m fat, like i need to be skinny to wear it and it’s so toxic especially because sometimes i do it to impress my crush and when i do wear the outfit i feel so insecure 😞

    mac and her cammac and her cam2 maanden geleden
  • Lol I'm a size large women's at age 13 and you know what? Thats okay! I'm sick and tired of feeling scared in my own skin! Love yourself yall! Life is short

    Malorie ReidMalorie Reid3 maanden geleden
  • I'm only 12 and I weigh 100 pounds. I do not like it and also my sister that is 10 years old has a bigger chest than me. It's one of my biggest insecurities.

    Miranda LlibreMiranda Llibre3 maanden geleden
  • I love videos where people just sit down and talk about topics like these and their take on them. :) plus always here for a confidence hype up.

    Samira MSamira M3 maanden geleden
  • The moment she said food is fuel I just burst out sobbing. I love you so much Ava thank you for making video like these

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  • My friend who struggled with an eating disorder once told me this: you look at every girl in our school and you could probably pick out something that you wish you had like theirs bu you have to realize that there are so many girls in the world that wished they had the same exact body as you. Even if you are struggling to finish a meal or wanting to eat you have to realize that every girl in this room could eat the exact same thing every day and we would still look different because it's all dependant on how your body functions.

    Annelise ThompsonAnnelise Thompson3 maanden geleden
  • Before quarantine, I was a lot thinner than I am now because I had access to sports and now I’m stuck doing homework outs and have been gaining weight. Anyone have tips on how to deal with weight fluctuation?

    Morgan WhittMorgan Whitt3 maanden geleden
  • Your mind is so beautiful! Wish everyone could see the world as you do

    Kaylee CanianesKaylee Canianes3 maanden geleden
  • I’m a curvier 5ft2 210lbs young woman, and honestly I spent more time focusing on my body and trying to be ‘perfect’ instead of trying to get through my school life.

    Kiri RodwayKiri Rodway3 maanden geleden
  • Really wonderful women and verry full of inpiration and idea

    AA Giwah Eiffel CHANNELAA Giwah Eiffel CHANNEL4 maanden geleden
  • Great video, so realistic ❤️

    Sara WilkersonSara Wilkerson4 maanden geleden
  • I just wanna add that you don’t have to be a certain weight or look a certain way, but you should still treat your body right with good nutrition and exercise. But remember that it’s not about being skinny, it’s about being healthy, they’re two different things ❤️❤️

    Ashley O.Ashley O.4 maanden geleden
  • After losing 25kilos, I am still not happy with my weight and I am scared I never will be. It’s so much effort to worry so much about the scales. Sometimes I wish I never had bothered and just lived my life.

    J DohertyJ Doherty4 maanden geleden
  • Your channel is my safe place ❤❤❤hopefully I will be confident in myself someday 💕

    Alyssa CascosAlyssa Cascos4 maanden geleden
  • i’m just tired of being small :( i’m talk and very skinny.

    Ale De LeónAle De León4 maanden geleden
  • I think it's way too easy to degrade your body these days because of social media. You feel you have to look certain ways to be valid and beautiful when some of those ways aren't even possible because of how your body is uniquely made! just like everyone has different personalities and thoughts, everyone has different body types too. so we need to start looking past how people look on the outside and determine peoples true character by what's on the inside. your size, shape, or weight does not determine your worth!

    Jordan JeffersJordan Jeffers4 maanden geleden
  • I used to be so insecure about my body because I've always been one of the tallest girls in my grade, and I've always had rolls, but seeing this video really helped me on my journey to self love and it just kind of made me realize that the main thing that matters in life is whether we love ourselves and feel happy. Thank you so much queen!!

    AnneliseAnnelise4 maanden geleden
  • I really needed this video constantly being told by my dad to not get fat has really caused a negative impact in my life just knowing I’m not alone about negative self image feels so much better ♥️😇

    ughdontknowwhatnametouseughdontknowwhatnametouse4 maanden geleden
  • I didn’t even know hip dips were a thing. Then I got self conscious because all of the girls in my grade would try and get rid of there’s and talk about them all of the time. :(

    Lydia MLydia M4 maanden geleden
  • I’m not kidding, stretch marks are on almost EVERYONEEEEEEE, ESPECIALLY woman. When our breast develop, especially really fast, you get stretch makes. When you develop hips, when you gain muscle, when you gain some weight because of puberty, you will get stretch marks. I’m a skinny girl, but my but grew like .0001 % and I have a LOT of stretch marks on my ass. It’s okay :)

    Lydia MLydia M4 maanden geleden
  • hey I just want to say your videos but a smile on my face, and you have help me become more confident in myself .and being confident was something I struggled with for 3 years thank you so much

    Yariann DiazYariann Diaz4 maanden geleden
  • Hi ava enjoying your blog

    Billie GabbardBillie Gabbard4 maanden geleden
  • This was so helpful and eye-opening! Thank you so much for your insight. I really value your perspective ❤️ I struggle with my internal monologue a LOT, so it’s nice to know I’m not alone and have access to support and helpful methods to accept myself 💕

    Avery BurkeAvery Burke5 maanden geleden
  • A piece of advice I have is to think to yourself how beautiful you are the moment you wake up in the morning and the moment before you go to sleep.

    Nancy AustinNancy Austin5 maanden geleden
  • I used to dress in really basic clothes just to feel like I could fit in with all the other girls. It was horrible because I knew that the outfits didn't suit the shape of my body so the whole time I'd just be constantly worrying about people judging me. Recently I have started developing my own style and wearing outfits that make me feel so much more confident about the way I look. ❤️

    Nancy AustinNancy Austin5 maanden geleden
  • Where did you get that drawer from? Love it!

    Carla BürerCarla Bürer5 maanden geleden
  • thank you.

    LottieeLottiee5 maanden geleden
  • i am just now watching this so i am a little late BUT this video helped a lot with what i am struggling with. i WAKE UP criticizing myself constantly. my mental health is honestly down the drain. i need to start loving myself more.

    abbie loveabbie love5 maanden geleden
  • This makes me feel so much better! Thank you Ava!!🥰

    CHECK OUT MY CHaNneLCHECK OUT MY CHaNneL5 maanden geleden
  • You are acc one of the most beautiful people on the internet, your natural and beautiful look on life and about yourself is so inspiring, keep being you

    Kate HulleyKate Hulley5 maanden geleden
  • Love this video & the set-up/angle you shot at this time!!! :)

    Brianna TancincoBrianna Tancinco5 maanden geleden
  • face skin, maffin top, comparing myself to my sister (personality wise) I always feel like my mom would rather spend time with her cuz she is funnier than me.

    Ayalla TsedekAyalla Tsedek5 maanden geleden
  • Ava you don’t even know how amazing you are and how much you’ve helped me ily ❤️

    Halle KramerHalle Kramer5 maanden geleden
  • To anyone who sees this, Jesus loves you and came to earth and died on a cross as the perfect sacrifice to save you from your sin! Then he rose on the 3rd day to conquer sin! He wants you to believe in Him and repent of your sins and ask Him to come into your heart to be your personal Lord and Savior!

    Lily MartinLily Martin5 maanden geleden
  • i’m quite late to this video but it’s currently 12am and i’m literally sobbing in my bed ): i definitely relate so much to the topics you’ve talked about. i absolutely love everything that you’ve said in this video and i agree. it really is just hard to apply the things we know into our lives. idk. i just wish i could just get my life together. welp other than my lame problems, this is why i absolutely love ava so much, she’s definitely one of the best influencers out there and the fact that she’s from Hawai’i is such a bonus. she’s such a great human being and i wish we could actually be friends 🥺💘💖💞💓

    Jahzell M.Jahzell M.5 maanden geleden
  • Life is too short to be comparing yourself to others and you’ll regret it you can get more money but cannot get anymore time

    JustLizzy22JustLizzy225 maanden geleden
  • I don’t eat but I have too

    JustLizzy22JustLizzy225 maanden geleden
  • Did she just threw her phone?😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂

    JustLizzy22JustLizzy225 maanden geleden
  • When ppl say they hate u it’s not true they actually hate themselves

    JustLizzy22JustLizzy225 maanden geleden
  • I like wearing oversized clothes

    JustLizzy22JustLizzy225 maanden geleden
  • I hate the number of my weight:(

    JustLizzy22JustLizzy225 maanden geleden
  • I think everyone is perfect and beautiful except me 😔🥺

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  • I know u but I never subscribe 😂

    JustLizzy22JustLizzy225 maanden geleden
  • I love your videos, you inspired me to create my own 😍

    EssenceoflivEssenceofliv5 maanden geleden
  • I absolutely love this video. I didnt realize how much I needed this. Thank so you much Ava!!💕💕💕❤❤❤

    Rachel RodriguezRachel Rodriguez5 maanden geleden
  • To quote natacha oceane: "how you look is the least interesting thing about you" Unless you're an unicorn??? Haha idk

    Nejla KambičNejla Kambič5 maanden geleden
  • Thank you for this you are amazing,😘

    stacy pritchettstacy pritchett5 maanden geleden
  • I have small chest and im very happy right now 🤗🤗

    Miri BarriosMiri Barrios5 maanden geleden
  • this made me so happy :)

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  • I just unsubscribed from all my favorite toxic you you tube your the only one I’m subscribed to

    Ava MolesAva Moles5 maanden geleden
  • Love your eye liner

    Ava MolesAva Moles5 maanden geleden
  • thank you, love you

    Alexis HaighAlexis Haigh5 maanden geleden
  • omg I have the lower belly "pouch" and im still insecure about it :/

    SamanthaSamantha5 maanden geleden
    • Girrrrrrrrl,mw too and my family use to point out my bellyyy but you know what I stopped giving a fuck and slowly learned how to embrace that shittt and feel like a fucking QUEEN,lovveee you you are worth it and BEAUTIFUL in and out sissss

      Tashnique JacobTashnique Jacob5 maanden geleden
  • You are like a big sister to me thank you

    aksaya arulaksaya arul5 maanden geleden
  • ❤️❤️😘😘😘

    aksaya arulaksaya arul5 maanden geleden
  • At the age of 8,9,and I used to weigh 60kgs (no jokes) and I would cry myself to sleep every night almost wishing that I had a skinny waist when I was only young and it was super unhealthy to stress.I would keep imagining how fat I would look in the future and I would never get any boys of friends to like me.I then realised about how much of a mistake this was and how I really shouldn’t be stressing this young so I convinced my parents to allow me to eat a bit healthier and that sure did work them I started doing small workout and fun games that was fit for my age and soon enough I started loosing weight.Now at the age of 13 I weigh 40 kgs and I now partake in my 2 favourite hobbies surfing and skating.I look back at what I was like and I’m so glad that my younger self took it slowest and didn’t rush it and knowing that it’s not to loose weight but to be healthyphysically and meantally.I kept that in mind over the years and Then think that quote can help everyone out.I went from being unhappy and feeling like a misfit to having full body confidence and being a surfer and skater ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️

    Lena TurnerLena Turner5 maanden geleden
  • Thank you for this video , really inspirational 🥺❤️❤️

  • Please make a part two to this video. There are so many more things I'd like to hear you talk about. Thank you so much for making this

    Keya DaviesKeya Davies5 maanden geleden